Helping you reconnect, communicate & rebuild trust
Therapy for individuals and couples who are finding things difficult in their relationships — a calm, steady space to make sense of what’s happening and find your way forward.
If you’re here, something in your relationship may not feel quite right.
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You keep having the same arguments, and come away feeling unheard.
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You’ve drifted apart, and feel lonely even when you’re together.
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Trust has been shaken, and you’re left anxious and unsure where you stand.
Whether you come on your own or together, I’ll help you make sense of what’s happening — and find a way forward that feels right for you.
ways to work together
Every relationship is different, so the work is shaped around you and what you need — whether you come alone, as a couple, or as an organisation.
Individual relationship therapy
For when a relationship is weighing on you and you want to understand your own part in it — the patterns, the old roles, and what you really need.
learn more For the two of youCouples relationship therapy
Learn to listen, say what you need honestly, and repair after conflict — so the same arguments stop repeating and you can find each other again.
learn more For couples, in depthIntensive couples therapy
Dedicated, uninterrupted time over one to three days, for when your relationship is in crisis or you want to go deeper, faster. Progress in days, not months.
learn more For organisationsCoaching & consultancy
Coaching and consultancy for businesses, helping people make sense of workplace challenges, communicate well and find a way forward.
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I know how lonely it can feel to struggle in a relationship you care about.
I grew up in a house that was often tense and unpredictable, and learned early that the safest way through was to keep the peace — be perfect, please others, never take up too much space. Those patterns followed me into my own relationships.
My own therapy, and training in Transactional Analysis at The Metanoia Institute, showed me how we slip into old roles, why the same arguments repeat, and how to respond from a calmer, more grounded place. Before that, I spent ten years in television and media, so I know the pressure of demanding careers too.
what we’ll work on
Listening
Hearing each other properly, especially when it’s hard to.
Expressing needs
Finding the words for what you need, and saying them honestly.
Repair
Staying connected through conflict, and coming back together after it.
frequently asked questions
How do I get started?
Email me at hello@jennifertolladytherapy.com to book a free 20-minute phone call. It gives us both a feel for each other and a chance to talk about what you’re looking for, with no commitment to carry on.
Is what I say confidential?
Yes, what you tell me stays between us, with a few exceptions: if I believed you or someone else were at serious risk of harm, or if the law required me to share information. I’ll go through these with you at the start, and where possible I’d raise any concern with you first. As a UKCP psychotherapist, I also have regular clinical supervision, where I talk about my work without identifying you.
How long will therapy take?
That depends on what you bring. Some people come for a few months to focus on something specific, while others choose longer-term work to look more deeply at patterns. We can review progress at any time, and you’re free to stop whenever you want.
How often are sessions, and how long are they?
For individuals, sessions are 50 minutes, usually weekly at a regular time. With couples I work in 60 or 90-minute sessions. I also offer couples intensives. Meeting consistently helps build trust and keeps the work continuous.
Do you offer online sessions?
Yes. I see people in person in Chiswick, Richmond and Ealing, and online by secure video. For online sessions, it’s best to find a quiet, private space where you won’t be overheard.
How much do sessions cost?
Individual sessions are £100.
Couples sessions are £130 (60 minutes) or £180 (90 minutes).
You can pay by card or bank transfer, and the initial 20-minute call is free.
What if I need to cancel?
Please give 48 hours’ notice to cancel or rearrange. Sessions cancelled with less notice are charged in full.
What should I do if I’m in crisis?
I can’t provide an emergency service. If you’re in crisis or at risk, call Samaritans on 116 123 (free, 24 hours), NHS 111, or 999 in an emergency.
With the right understanding and skills, things can change.
Book a free 20-minute introductory call — no pressure, just a chance to see whether working together feels right.
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